Your wedding is a fantastic time to bring together all of your family and friends to celebrate with you. If there are certain people within your family who you would like to have an official role in your special day, here are some ways you could include them.
In your bridal party
Your siblings or siblings-in-law could be your bridesmaids, best man or groomsmen. If you have kids or young nieces or nephews, you could include them as your flower girls or page boys. This can be as informal as having them walk down the aisle in front of you and taking their seats at the front.
The tradition of the bride being walked down the aisle and “given away” by her father has now expanded. You could be walked down the aisle by one or both of your parents, or an uncle, aunty, grandparent or anybody who is special to you.
Doing a reading
If you have family members who don’t mind public speaking, they might be thrilled to be asked to do a reading. Unlike your wedding speeches where you won’t know exactly what they might say, with a reading you can choose the wording! Make sure they bring their copy of the reading (and your celebrant should have one too just in case) and their glasses for reading if they need them!
Playing the music
Being in charge of the music at your ceremony is a great job for the right person. Any professional musicians in the family? They might be able to perform before, after or during the ceremony. Otherwise, if you’ve got a relative who’s not afraid of audio visual equipment and knows their way around a speaker system, you could ask them to be in charge of playing the right tracks at the right time for your arrival music, signing and music before and after the ceremony.
Witnessing your signing
Your wedding register needs to be signed by two witnesses. If your father and father-in-law or male relatives are going to be involved in speeches and formalities at your reception, your signing could be the perfect opportunity to bring your mother and mother-in-law together to give their official approval of your marriage!
Every family has different dynamics and circumstances, so there are no hard and fast rules of who to involve and in what way. Choose the options which suit your family – and it’s always nice to give personal thanks for their help later in your wedding speeches.